A friend posted a poem called Running in Place. She had some good rhymes in there. In her description she said it started when she explained to a friend what it was like when a guy walked up to her. To her, it's like a unicorn is walking toward her and she has no idea what to do. Pretty creative. I kinda like it. I remember feeling that way when I first had crushes. And then it switched from what to do to why are they coming over here? The curiosity aspect stuck. I'm pretty sure that if I was approached by a random hot guy I'd wonder why and not what. I'm no longer put in those situations anymore. For one, I'm currently unemployed and don't get out much. I'm not a huge fan of going out drinking. Also, I don't have any friends that live around here. There's only my boyfriend and I and he goes out with coworkers/friends.
Her poem made me think though. Made me call back memories about falling in love. Yes. I mean falling in love not being in love. They are two totally different feelings. Falling in love is more like an adrenaline rush. It's really strong and makes your heart race but eventually it fades away. Being in love is the opposite. You just feel and are able to acknowledge it's there. There's no rush and no fading away. It sticks. Sure it might not be as amazing feeling as that adrenaline-packed falling feeling but it gives more comfort. I think most people would agree with me that falling in love is amazing. You feel like a kid at Christmas every day you spend with that someone you're falling for. It's magical and you can't believe you can feel this way about someone. But like I said, it does fade away and sometimes that fading away leads to break ups. You just don't feel that awesomeness that you felt before so you feel like you must have fallen out of love with the person. That might not actually be true. You may have switched over from falling to being but remembering that falling and enjoying that rush has clouded the true underlying feelings you have. Who would want an adrenaline rush to end?
Sadly, because of that rush the being in love tends to be tough. You start to see things more clearly. You might find that the person you're with has nothing in common with you at all. Maybe that's a good thing though. It means you can both learn something new and try out new things that you may have not even thought about trying. However, many people aren't open to new opportunities and realize that they aren't with the person they want to be with. This is fine as long as the person realizes the difference between comparing the falling feeling to how they truly feel.
Being in love is harder to notice. It can sometimes be just as simple as one of you going off on a business trip for a few days and you feeling a bit lonely. It could be as simple as you paying for the coffee instead of him or individually paying. Trust and honesty end up being the sign of being in love. You know you don't have to worry about them cheating or leaving you without reason. You know that if something is bothering them they will tell you when they are ready. You confide in one another without even thinking twice. Sometimes you just need a little time to figure out your own feelings about a situation first. More importantly you'll talk about things. You made a mistake by eating something he was saving for himself even though it's been in the fridge for days. Oops. He doesn't hold it against you but makes sure you know that next time you should just take the few seconds to ask first. Being in love has its ups and downs. Some days you might be so angry with one another but you'll have forgiven or forgotten about it and continuing living in a few days. You can point out each other's flaws but still love each other anyways. You accept them for who they are and they accept you. They never ask you to change in drastic ways and will support you with your choices.
Being in love is what lasts. Falling in love can lead to being in love or it can lead to nothing. I've always liked describing falling in love like taking a running leap off a cliff edge. The fall feels amazing as the wind whips past your body. What you didn't notice where the jagged rocks and crashing waves at the bottom. Sometimes Superman comes and grabs you out of the air just before you hit and other times there's no one there to catch you. You just barely miss the rocks but the ice cold water pricks your skin. It can take a while to get out of the water. The waves keep pushing you back and your limbs are getting numb but eventually you do. And you remember what the fall felt like. The amazing adrenaline pumping through your veins. So you make the jump again and again until someone finally catches you.